Basically, "how to voluntarily apply for a problem that could have been avoided". Literally, the initiator of this amazing one-day lasting occasion makes you sign a piece of paper that instantly involves the third-party (government), and now half (if not more) of your assets officially belong to the initiator of the wedding.
Do you really believe that after the wedding which itself along with the honey-moon costs a shitton of green will unite your soul with hers? Do you really believe that your love with her is above everything? Oh, yeah? Now try disagreeing with her irrational decisions on a daily basis. All of that︀ love s**t will hit the fan.
If not having a wedding and signing those papers︁ is a reason for us not to be on "the level that we could be",︂ then it's fake.
Marriage is a scam.