No, you're right, I don't think OP is Canadian. But iirc OP spent a few years in Canada, so might be possible to get Canadian papers in another couple years and then go to USA. Depends how badly they want to go there and their present situation.︀ Kinda roundabout, but sometimes it's an option. Of course if you have money to throw︁ at the problem, that's usually better.
As far as finding a fat lady---haha! Hilarious, just︂ don't let her sit on you, unless you like getting choked. You'll definitely need to︃ be fulfilling marital duties of some sort. But seriously, from how much retentive minutiae is︄ scrutinised for US immigration by marriage, I would not consider marriage an option unless an︅ absolute last resort (and I mean last resort after considering to live in any other︆ country). USCIS (previously INS) can trail you for 10+ years checking up on the validity︇ of your marriage. You would really have to love somebody to go through that hassle,︈ I don't know that even paying $250k for a marriage would be worthwhile considering the︉ hassle (not to mention that it is a serious federal crime). I guess the best︊ thing then is to just say you identify as a butterfly and are gender-fluid in︋ an open harem-like relationship, and they'll never know who you're really sleeping with, which side︌ of the bed you're on, or which of your wife's cousins farts the loudest at︍ family cookouts. Plus moving to a sanctuary city might help, laws seem to be applied︎ differently in those areas. Many things I like about USA, but some of their idiotic️ gubbermint institutions and policies should just cease to exist.
Yep, doncha know it. A friend of a friend experienced that exact situation. His dog was dying in Toronto, so he left in the middle of the process and got banned from re-entering USA for ten years, iirc. You gotta ask yourself what's more important at that point. If the dog was in Toronto, family︀ should have drove to visit him with the dog in Buffalo to say their goodbyes.︁ But he didn't think that US immigration was so serious. That's a mistake lots of︂ Canuckleheads make, because coming and going from USA as a tourist is generally easy breezy.︃ But it's hella serious when you're trying to make work for great benefit of glorious︄ future lifetime, then they treat you like a Mexican---papeles cabron, la pinche migra viene! Anything︅ besides a regular tourist trip to Vegas or Old Faithful and INS is gonna be︆ checking every a*s crack you got.
Somebody said this about funerals: you're not going to︇ come to my funeral, so why should I go to yours? As for weddings, they︈ mostly end in divorce, don't they? I'll come to the divorce party instead, I like︉ burning effigies more than eating cake.